Day 11

Some of you may of heard of a movie called Fireproof it was a christian story about a husband and wife with no children and this fascination with porn and there taking each other for granted. They promoted a book called the Love Dare and  I had many problems in my marriage at the time decided to buy the book and take the Dare. I loved the book and purchased a leather copy for myself and a paperback for my husband. I used it as therapy and it helped and restored our marriage for a few months until we reached the next hurtle, and this one was larger so we had to seek counseling outside of the book but I want to share two of the things the book asks you to do with you. One of course is a letter ...
"" Many times when a marriage is in crisis, the spouse who is trying to make things work will go to the other, declaring in no uncertain terms that no matter what has happened in the past. But not wanting to hear this yet, the other spouse holds their position. They still want out. They don't see the marriage lasting long-term. Nor do they even want it anymore."
 the challenge from the love dare which is your Day 11 challenge is...
SPEND TIME IN THINKING OR IN PRAYER, THEN WRITE A LETTER OF COMMITMENT
AND RESOLVE TO YOUR SPOUSE. INCLUDE WHY YOU ARE COMMITTING TO THIS MARRIAGE UNTIL DEATH, AND THAT YOU HAVE PURPOSED TO LOVE THEM NO MATTER WHAT. LEAVE IT IN A PLACE THAT YOUR MATE WILL FIND IT.
(I am not condoning staying with a verbal or physical abuser)

What were some of the hesitations you had writing this letter? How do you expect your spouse to respond to it? What did the process teach you about yourself???
The second thing that I want to share with you from the book is not a letter but...
ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOUR MATE WOULD WANT IF IT WAS OBTAINABLE. COMMIT THIS TO THOUGHT OR PRAYER, AND START MAPPING OUT A PLAN FOR MEETING SOME ( IF NOT ALL) OF THEIR DESIRES, TO WHATEVER LEVEL YOU POSSIBLY CAN.
  What has made your resistant to fulfilling your mate's desires in the past? How would it change your relationship if they knew their dreams were a priority to you? What desires are you attempting to meet?

  I secretly want to go back to school for my masters, my husband cannot afford this and neither can I he also thinks it is silly for me to do this at 41 and say I won't ever even use it, but I want it for me.
 I have to think what he wants. He is a beekeeper on the side and always wants to go to a out of town meeting to a bee conference and I know it means a lot to him, so this year I said, "you should sign up." and he did.