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Tuesday, October 15, 2013

routine maintenance

 Well I feel tired, hopeless, and POOR yes I said poor. Why do I feel like this when I am a successful health coach with a thriving business? Because every now and again my healthy work space and home gets cluttered. THERE I said it, CLUTTERED.

So yes, Einstein thinks out of some clutter can come Harmony....and opportunity... but right now I believe many people are living with garages overstuffed, attic's, drawers and rooms full of clutter. IT makes most of us feel tired, hopeless and poor.  My outer order contributes to my inner calm. I am feeling out of balance, and I know it is because I have CLUTTER.

I usually do spring cleaning in March where I really make systems for things, and everything has a place, but by this time every year, I have abandoned ship, and that isn't the way I want it to work.

I know that there are definitions of different types of people who "allow" clutter.. over at the organized home she talks about how there are
and Perfectionists

Which one do you identify with, I can be a low key hoarder sometimes.

Let's get back to why I feel tired... Because my cluttered home is a visual and psychic drain. I am learning to let go of things. I once had an addiction for acquiring things, and I am learning that it's not working for me.

Why do I feel hopeless? I have to many papers, ideas, and scraps or posts it's and It becomes overwhelming, even if I have good lecture or program ideas I get so frustrating at looking at all those papers, I shut down and don't do anything about it, throwing my hands in the air in frustration.

So let's get back to why I feel POOR- because the homes of the very wealthy are not cluttered. CEO and successful people are not struggling to make ends meet, they dont' collect things usually and they have very little. NO Clutter.

Clutter can hurt you to, that is because your stuff is in control not you. YOU need to pause and DONATE it, THROW IT OUT,  and or organize it. IF you don't know how, then find a organization, blog, website that gives advice on how to organize things you are keeping.

congestion and back issues. Unclog your home and your health.

IF you haven't heard of Feng Shui go to your local library and or bookstore and check some out, you will find some great ideas on how to declutter and organize your home.
 So take a few minutes to pause in your home today, and decide if it needs some decluttering, donating before the holidays, and or just some organization.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

the long PAUSE in the dressing room

I am behind in my 31 day posts about PAUSE... Today I took Pause in a dressing room.
Today my mother in law invited me to lunch and then to do some retail shopping. I didn't really want to go, I had a lot of work to do and in all honesty dislike retail shopping. I know some of you call it retail therapy, but unless it's a small fun boutique or a book store, I usually pass.
 So I haven't been inside a retail clothing store dressing room in more than a year. I KNOW crazy, I run into Kohl's once in awhile and buy a shirt off the wrack- and don't bother to try it on.  I always think it's because I don't want to take the time to go in the dressing room, but today I learned the real reason.

Growing up I was skinny- into high school and college I had a concave stomach, and I could finish off a burger, fries and a shake and not gain a lb. IN my 30's things started to change. I am an emotional eater to top things off, and when I am stressed I eat.  That being said, over the years I have gained and lost weight. I was in great shape the 9 months that I went vegan and was running 4 miles every day. My business began to grow, my son's school needs changed and I began to work at the computer longer than I would like to admit, doing school work, advertising, blog posts and writing content for my detoxes and health coaching programs.

But now back to the department store... we pulled up and I was full of naive hope as I grabbed my purse and headed with my MIL inside. I loved all the fall colored cardigans, and the cowl neck dresses. I had a little spring in my step as I walked closer to one of the mannequins that seemed to be leaning toward me to say, come on buy something. Everything was more expensive than I thought it would be, but my mother in law said she she had a 25% off coupon and not to worry. So I loaded up my arm with a few things and headed to the dressing room.
  What I saw in that reflection- perplexed me- DID I really look like this? a frumpy women trying to fit into clothes from Taylor Swifts closet? Above my waistline was a bulge pooching out. My hair looked awful and my flabby arms, well you couldn't miss them. The double mirrors, angled cruelly and looking at the back of the dress I was trying on was very unpleasant. I couldn't get away from it, I looked like a different person- Someone I really didn't want to be acquainted with. I am not condoning self loathing and I was not trying to be so self-critical but I felt defeated standing in that mirror. ME the health coach.
  BUT this is the real me. THE true me that I hide from lately, and try to ignore, but the mirrors showed me it can't be ignored any more. YES, I could ignore the mirrors, not go back to a retail dressing room and say the truth is relative. BUT I was not walking the walk as a coach. It hit me really hard, I felt like a fraud, I didn't feel like my genuine self. How did I let myself go again, I eat the right things and I stay away from GMO, dairy and gluten, how could I be so flabby and out of shape. I spend many hours at my desk working without movement, and I see clients sitting and on the phone or skype and I don't move as much as I use to.

I am on the cusp of transition, my business is growing bigger and I get more an more clients weekly.I think a part of me is terrified. I feel what if I am not good enough, or I don't know enough- or I don't deserve this.  I know it's ok to be afraid, I tell my clients this all the time, Fear is natural. But not if fear paralyzes you. Maybe I am not my ideal body yet, but I am one hell of a lot closer than I was 2 years ago. It's about the journey not the race - right? I don't want to have limiting beliefs about myself and I know the choice is up to me. I know with all my heart that my coaching has helped my clients, I know I am good at what I do. I know my clean eating support group is going to be a huge success to many women and I know I am spreading a healthy message for as many women as I can reach. I help people with self-care and self-love and I have gotten countless letters telling me so, so why do I feel I am a fraud. I can see the beauty in other people, why can't I see it in myself.  I am dependable and driven coach. YES, I have room for improvement in my business and with  my own body.

So what does all this mean? it means I am enough, but I am going to make a better effort to add more movement into my life, and do things I do enjoy even if I am behind on a school module, a monthly newsletter or a program I want to launch soon.  This couldn't have happened at a better time as I am taking a online class with Brene Brown October 2oth and we are reading her book The gifts of imperfection....

May your dreams be bigger than your fears... and maybe I will see you in the gym, in front of my P90X dvd, or walking my 4 miles again. ( NO, I didn't end up buying anything) but maybe in a few weeks, I will see progress and buy my self a reward for efforts made.  So know I know the real reason why I don't like retail shopping because that me I see in the angeled 3 sided mirror, is the me, I was trying to avoid, until today.

Friday, October 4, 2013


I have been struggling with something personally and it is weighing heavy on my mind, I am worried for my son's future and I am worried about money.  At the same time, I have been struggling with back pain, lower to be specific for 7 days.  Terrible pain that has be unable to get my leg into my car without feeling a twinge of pain, difficulty walking and very uncomfortable.I believe in  Louise L. Hay's work and decided to look at her book Heal Your Body- the mental causes for physical illness and the metaphysical ways to overcome them.

In the book she says that lower back pain is a fear of money and lack of financial support. The hip bone and sacrum area where my pain radiates from also has a specific message in her book it says:fear about the future and loss of power. Old stubborn anger.OLD stubborn anger?I don't feel anger, and clearly I must need to really look at some things maybe journal to see if I am holding on to anger?

So all this got me thinking, wow- I know a lot of people with back pain and especially back pain where there is no injury to blame for it. IF they are having the same physical illnesses can they heal themselves in a metaphysical way? I just opened up my email this am and read Heather Pierce's personal post about her back pain for the past 5 months and how she began to slowly heal by using Laura Hames Franklin's method of healing. I was intrigued so I went to her website and tried an exercise. I was impressed with the way it calmed me down. I decided to join her LAHF5 challenge. It seems to be a challenge to help heal your mind and body in a metaphysical way and with touch.

So then again it made me Pause- I had to examine what some fears may be that are causing this physical pain and how these things weighing heavy on me are affecting my thoughts.  I have been examining over and over again - I know I need to journal and really figure out why I have a fear of the future and why I have a fear of lack of money. So I promise to take just 10 minutes out of my day today to write about some feelings I am having- and to practice healing myself myself, so I don't require hip or back surgery. I know the book stresses in order to eliminate a condition, the person must work to dissolve the mental cause. I find it difficult to begin because I am not sure what the cause is.So I have to go within to find the mental cause.

What physical pain to you experience? headaches? arthritis? stomach pains? could it be something you are holding in your mind that is making you feel this pain? THOUGHTS you hold or words you repeat about yourself or your situation? The book has a quote I will leave you with,"What we're choosing to think and say today, at this moment, will create tomorrow and the next day and the next week and the next month and the next year, and so on. This is where we begin to make changes. What a liberating idea. We can begin to let old nonsense go. Right now. The smallest beginning will make a difference."

Thursday, October 3, 2013

31 days to pause*** day 2

My love of trees especially oaks and maples is a funny love... I have framed photos of them in my home.

Do people look at nature any more? or are we so focused on our to do list or or phones that we miss the change of seasons... the TREES...
- I am drawn to trees alone on hills I am drawn to trees with no leaves, I am drawn to trees at every season. Fall is my favorite. I was asked recently by a "life/business" coach to write down some things I really like and nature was one of them and art was the other , so I took a friend to Storm King Arts Center Here today for her birthday, and we PAUSED from our busy MOM lives to have some MOM time to be in hike... and have a light lunch. We admired the Trees of course.

Consider the life of a tree
Aside from the axe, what trees acquire from man is inconsiderable.
What man may acquire from trees is immeasurable
From their mute forms there flows a poise, in silence,
a lovely sound and motion in response to wind
What peace comes to those aware of the voice
and bearing of trees!
Trees do not scream for attention
A tree, a rock, has no pretence, only a real growth out of itself
in close communion with the universal spirit.
A tree retains a deep serenity.

IT establishes in the earth not only it's root system but also
those roots of its beauty and its unknown consciousness
Sometimes one may sense a glisten of that consciousness, and with such perspective, feel that man is not necessarily the highest form of life. Cedric Wright

IF you are interested in more about "trees" you might find this work interesting...
Beginning practitioners of Chinese internal organ massage (Chi Nei Tsang) are taught how to commune with trees. Shouldn’t this be part of everyone’s education? by Mantak Chia
“Chi Nei Tsang: Internal Organs Chi Massage”, Mantak and Mannewan Chia’s manual for practitioners of traditional Chinese medical massage, is yet another fine fruit of Chinese Taoist cosmology. Mao retained Traditiional Chinese medicine while otherwise industrializing his country, which allowed China to continue its multi-millenia tradition of developing this great clinical science unencumbered by Communist dogma (while also spreading it throughout the Western world). That a large percentage of potential in-patient visitors to Chinese hospitals are almost immediately discharged on the basis of a chi massage argues for what a serious and effective medical methodology it is. How playful and profound the artful science of Chinese internal organ massage actually is can be at least partially appreciated through the exercises presented below.
1. The Healing Abilities of Trees
Taoist Masters observed that trees are tremendously powerful plants. Not only can they absorb carbon dioxide and transform it into oxygen, but they can also absorb negative forces and transform them into good energy. Trees strongly root with the Earth, and the more rooted the tree, the higher it can extend to Heaven. Trees stand very still, absorbing the Earth’s Energy and the Universal Force from the Heavens.
Trees and all plants have the ability to absorb the light of the energies and transform it into food; in fact, they depend on light for most of their nourishment, while water and earth minerals make up about 30% of their nutritional intake. Trees are able to live very long lives.
a. The Tree as Healer and Friend
Trees are the largest and most spiritually advanced plants on earth. They are constantly in meditation, and subtle energy is their natural language. As your understanding of this language grows, you can begin to develop a relationship with them. They can help you open your energy channels and cultivate calm, presence, and vitality. You can reciprocate by helping them with their own blockages and devitalized areas. It is a mutually beneficial relationship that needs cultivation.
b. Choosing a Tree to Work With Throughout history human beings have used all parts of the tree for healing and medicine. The best trees for healing are big trees, especially pines. Pine trees radiate Chi, nourish blood, strengthen nervous systems, and contribute to long lives. They also nurture souls and spirits. Pines are the “Immortal Tree.” Early Chinese poetry and painting is full of admiration for pines.
Although pine trees are often the best choice, many other trees or plants can be used. The larger trees contain the most energy. Among the most powerful are trees growing near running water. Some trees feel warmer or hotter than others; some feel cooler or colder than others. Practice distinguishing the varying properties of different trees.
1. Cypress and cedar trees reduce heat and nourish Yin energy.
2. Willow trees help to expel sick winds, rid the body of excess dampness, reduce high blood pressure, and strengthen the urinary tract and bladder.
3. Elm trees calm the mind and strengthen the stomach.
4. Maple trees chase sick winds and help reduce pain.
5. Locust trees help clear internal heat and help balance the weather of the heart.
6. Banyan trees clear the heart and help to rid the body of dampness
7. Cinnamon trees can clear coldness from the heart and abdomen.
8. Fir trees help clear up bruises, reduce swelling, and heal broken bones faster.
9. Hawthorn trees help aid digestion, strengthen the intestines, and lower blood pressure,
10. Birch trees help clear heat and dampness from the body am: help to detoxify it.
11. Plum trees nourish the spleen, stomach, and pancreas and calm the mind.
12. Fig trees clear excess heat from the body, increase saliva. nourish the spleen. and help stop diarrhea.
13. Ginco trees help strengthen the bladder and alleviate urinary problems in women.
You do not need to go far out into the forest to find an appropriate tree to work with. Trees that are used to having people around understand our energy and are actually more accessible and friendly than those far out in the wilderness. City parks and suburban yards are filled with powerful and accessible trees that would love to have closer relationships with the humans that dominate their environment.
There is a certain size range within which trees are most accessible to human beings. When a tree is too small, it does not have enough energy to make much of an impression on you. When the tree is too big, you have the opposite problem, so it takes more persistence to get large trees to take an interest in you. As a source of healing energy, it is best to choose a large, robust tree from within the accessible size range. For playful interaction it is best to choose a small to medium sized tree. While it is not necessary to climb the tree to develop a relationship, it does open up a whole new world, Climb gently and carefully so as not to harm the tree.*excerpt from Dharma cafe

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