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Tuesday, April 6, 2010

F is for Failure

http://tossingitout.blogspot.comFirst in a series from A-Z
I was surfing the blog world while my son was napping and I should have been doing laundry when I found a man's blog called Tossing it out ,He had a challenge that I found intriguing. He said can you find a different topic to write about from A-Z. I was up for the challenge and so because I started late F will be my first in the series.( I will do A-E at the end)
 The word Failure not a favorite word of mine.
When you hear the word Failure what comes to your mind?
When you couldn't or didn't breastfeed one of your children?
A job that ended? a "failed" marriage? Unable to quit smoking?
Or maybe you feel you failed at life. Hopefully the word does not keep you awake at night. Everyone who believe they have failed at something feel like this because of a series of negative memories or events from life that I like to call "movies". The home "movies" we play in our minds seem to show evidence of our failures, so it supports the thoughts of being a failure.  It could have been a teacher, a friend or a parent who many years ago, reminded you or made you feel badly about something you experienced.
Some women feel they wasted their education on being "just" a stay home mom.- Is that true? some might argue it- but i think not, I think the quote by Tom Krause is important to read into:"There are no failures- just experiences and your reactions to them".
  Maybe failure is also in our minds because of the way society shows perfection and being perfect.
Don't get old, or wrinkles buy this cream.
Are you pale, buy this sun bronzer.
You are 10 lbs or more over weight start this diet or join this gym.
Your hair is wrong
You dress all wrong, your not sexy the list can go on and on and on.... but it it true????
Women strive to be the "perfect" mother, "perfect" cook, "perfect" lover and "perfect" employee.
I think when I feel like a failure it's usually when I am measuring myself against someone elses progress which is a terrible habit.
Yes, we will disappoint ourselves somehow, but we need to figure out a way to let go. Think about things you thought were failures that you survived..

The next time you think you failed at something - tell yourself something you excelled in-- maybe it will help.
So in the FUTURE  whenever your FOOTSTEPS take you to eat 3 cupcakes on the day of your diet or a FABULOUS day with your FAMILY remember don't think failure is the only option, it's not try to have FUN.
See you Thursday for letter G for Greg Mortenson (author)

4 comments:

Melody said...

Thanks so much for this blog... I needed the reminder. :)

adreamygal said...

I was really in bad mood before peeking into ur blog , but then after I am finsihed reading it , I am back to bang !! Thank you , for you have truly said that failure is sometimes measuring ourselves on some parameters , whereas we ourselves are aawre that the other word for humans is "being imperfect"...A good take on the topic and yeah will wait for other series of posts too :)

And hey your template is very good :) I liked it :)

Holly said...

How do you manage to be so insightful. Failure terrifies me...but I find I am usually harder on myself than anyone else is on me. Definitely something I am working on. For me. it is all in my mind and as I grow older, I realize that each failure teaches me something to make my life better.

gayle said...

Failure has made me not try....I am sad to say!!

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